“Trigger”, “wound”, and “false reality.”
Whatever word you want to use for it, insecurities hold us back from knowing the fullness of Christ within us.
They hold us back from pursuing our dreams, living out a godly marriage, being good parents, or heck, being a good friend! Insecurities not only affect us but they affect everyone around us.
I don’t know about you, but for a long time I thought that if I only stopped thinking about what made me insecure then it wouldn’t have power over me. But I’ve gone through too many ups and downs with insecurity to know pretty well that my insecurities have more power over me than I’m willing to admit.
Insecurities aren’t always brought on by our own doings. I’d like to make a bold statement and say that some insecurities are valid! This isn’t a statement for you to hold over someone’s head by saying that the way they are responding to a situation is because their insecurity was brought on by something they couldn’t handle. Our insecurities should never be a cop-out to following the Holy Spirit in our lives. This statement is for a person who might have had something done to them that grants a legitimate reason to have a specific insecurity.
People hurt other people. It’s the way of life in our fallen world. We have wounds from our past, creating triggers that set us off, reminding us of those times. We set up false realities of what we think of ourselves, trying to cover up the hurt that has taken over in our hearts.
Well, let me tell you from experience: covering up hurt and trying not to think about it isn’t going to shut up your insecurities for good, it’s going to make them come back more strongly the next time.
I hate to say it, but I think our enemy wants us to feel insecure. Insecurity keeps us from following what we know God wants for us in life and from being free from bondage of any kind! Peter talks about how Satan looks for people to pounce on in 1 Peter 5:8, “Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.”
Don’t think that your insecurities are hidden from the enemy. He will use your insecurities to keep you from becoming the godly man/woman that God wants you to become! He will do anything to keep you from bringing more glory to God!
We need to put on our armor! Good thing Paul tells us about the armor of God that we, as his children, have power through the Holy Spirit to use! Check it out:
10 Finally, be strong in the Lord and in the strength of his might. 11 Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the schemes of the devil. 12 For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places. 13 Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand firm.
14 Stand therefore, having fastened on the belt of truth, and having put on the breastplate of righteousness, 15 and, as shoes for your feet, having put on the readiness given by the gospel of peace. 16 In all circumstances take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming darts of the evil one; 17 and take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God, 18 praying at all times in the Spirit, with all prayer and supplication. To that end keep alert with all perseverance, making supplication for all the saints..."
Don’t underestimate the power of God! The same spirit that raised Jesus Christ from the dead lives in you!
Some of you might be lost or thinking that your insecurities or wounds from the past are too big to conquer. I think you’d love to hear from one of my favorite authors, Beth Moore. Read this excerpt from her book So Long, Insecurity that I’ve been reading for the past couple weeks. This part is right after she talked about wanting to ask her husband, Keith, the question almost every single or married woman has at some point, “Do you still think I’m beautiful?” She decides not to ask him and instead listens to her own thoughts on the matter. Listen…
“I eventually plopped down at the table on my back porch and heard a voice form my own handicapped soul mimicking Keith’s: No, the simple fact is, you’re not still beautiful to me. Not surprising coming from the voice of my soul; self-condemnation is the strong suit of people with my kind of background. But that’s when the freaky part happened. A moment later I heard a deeper voice—not out loud, of course, but from the innermost place within me—say, Yes. Yes, indeed you are. The thought came out of left field. In fact, it shocked me. Listen, I’m not given to those kinds of thoughts when I’m in that kind of emotional funk. I knew that voice was not mine. It was Christ’s. I also knew that it had absolutely nothing to do with my looks and everything to do with the kind of beauty that really is sustainable—even improvable—no matter what happens to us, who rejects us, how handicapped we are, or how old we get.
The thought that occurred to me before but never in this context: sitting at that porch table, I realized with fresh astonishment that, although we may have something unhealthy deep inside of us, those in whom Christ dwells also have something deeper. Something whole. Something so infinitely healthy that, if it would but invade the rest of us, we would be healed.
"I don’t know. Maybe this isn’t a big revelation to you, but I am so thankful that at no time since I received Christ as Savior have I ever been a total wreck. Partial? Lord, have mercy, yes. Humiliatingly so. But total? Not on your ever-loving life. And if He resides in you, neither have you (Romans 8:9). Jesus is not unhealthy. His strength is made perfect in our weakness. This thought never grows old to me: He has no dark side. In Him is no darkness at all.
"That, beloved, is our challenge. To let the healthy, utterly whole, and completely secure part of us increasingly overtake our earthen vessels until it drives our every emotion, reaction, and relationship. When we allow God’s truth to eclipse every false positive and let our eyes spring open to the treasure we have, there in His glorious reflection we’ll also see the treasure we are. And the beauty of the Lord our God will be upon us (Psalm 90:17 NKJV).”You see, we need to tap into the healthy part of our souls, the Living Water of Jesus Christ, to pour out His truth into the rest of our lives. We can’t go on living with our insecurities, which take every ounce of our energy to repress. Instead let us grab tightly to the truth we know in Christ and allow Him to show us who we are!
God, I pray that today you would help us to take the first step toward being insecurity-free. I pray that as we listen to your truth instead of the lies we tell ourselves about who we are, we would see who you made us to be. I pray against Satan taking hold of our lives through our insecurities. Help us to break free of that hold and use your power to overcome it! Thank you for giving us the power to break free from anything in this life! We love you, Lord!
[This post first appeared on Radical Everyday Living, January 27, 2014.]